First dates are both exhilarating and daunting. Typically, after the first date, two things have the potential to occur. The first is that you both didn’t quite feel the connection, accidentally cried over your ex partner, or confided your deepest and darkest secrets to the other party. Regardless, the first scenario is that you ended up not having a successful first date and will most likely never see your date again. The second scenario is far more likely. Basically, the second scenario is that the two of you got along, had good conversation, and exchanged phone numbers. This second scenario almost always results in a second date. However, if your first dates always tend to end up in scenario 1, it may be time to reconsider a few things.
For one, if all of your dates have failed in the beginning stages, try to figure out why. Maybe you’ve been asking too many yes or no questions. If this is the case, open up and bring up some open ended questions that will, in turn, facilitate a much more fluid conversation. Maybe you were too quiet or too shy? Well, if this is the case, acknowledge within yourself that it is okay to be yourself on a first date. Don’t suppress your opinions or comments because you think it is the polite thing to do. If the person you are with doesn’t respond well to your opinions, then hey, they probably aren’t someone who you’d want to be dating anyway. So, if you’ve see a bunch of your dating situations fail, consider doing some in depth searching in order to discover if there is something you can do internally in order to improve your first date interactions.